Love is abundant , we claim it is rare. We do because we miss what is love. Love is compassion and compassion never hurts. Compassion is the joy that we miss when we look where love does not exist.
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On Love
The single one thing that love is and love needs to be is compassion. Compassion means kindness, gentleness, mindfulness. It means not to hurt, not to degrade, not to alienate, not to push away or isolate. While we all make those mistakes every now and then, if compassion was there love can last a life time. If we hurt persistently and stubbornly and we claim love, we do not love. Love does not hurt, should not hurt, love brings peace, joy, and completion. Love is not the passion that burns and fades. Love is the compassion that lasts and endures.
Peace finders
This is what worked for me very well in terms of giving me peace in life; Firstly, is to be consistent with your values and that include what you believe you deserve as your place in life and who you are. The second is never ever make a decision based on fear because it will be mostly wrong. Do not fear poverty when you are seeking abundance, do not fear loneliness when you are seeking companionship, and never fear a loss when you are hoping for a gain!
Hurting you honestly!
Among all the excuses people use to justify hurting others, honesty is the worst. Does it make it less hurtful to tell someone fat, they are fat or to label someone who was burnt or suffered a major disfiguring accident with "honest' labels that describe their aliments?! For once, we are using a great trait to justify a bad nasty urge to put others down, to feel superior or to gain control not to mention pure masochistic pleasure! It is said that narcissists use this excuse to storm their victims or Narcissistic Supplies (NS) with self esteem downers to gain control over them. Why would you want to be a sick person with such an excuse? Say beautiful encouraging things or say nothing!
Emotional pain and the love we hold back
We live our lives burdened with a huge weight. Our emotional pain is so heavy, so cumbersome and so overwhelming that it is hard to believe how we can still breath and function the way we do. Like many burdens and pains it becomes part of our consistent none awareness; we numb and cease to feel as no moment exists without it. The pain is an accumulation of past experiences that may go all the way to our early childhood. Inconsistent patterns of care, abandonment or let downs by our primary care givers. These experiences might become enforced later in life through other let downs and our pain just grows more. The accumulation of pain breeds fear and mistrust and that spills into our relationships. The pity and shame come from the limitations such pain can cause us to love. Fear holds love and suffocates it. We push love away, we become harsh and stubborn, we doubt intentions, we hold affection. We strangulate love at its birth. How can we love when we are so much in pain