How finding the light can bring joy to our relationships

One needs to be content and happy with oneself in order to be able to be happy with someone else. Happiness cannot be found in a better or more complete and stable way than through finding our spiritual truth.  When we understand the various principles that govern life and all its success and failures, we will feel that fear; greed, envy, competition and being needy are no longer part of our lives or psychological composition.  The peace and harmony that emanates from within will touch everyone and everything around us making our lives more receptive to love and kindness.

Finding our own light within will make us loving being, patient and forgiving. It becomes easier to see why our partners act in a certain way and where does it come from. This insight is a gift that an enlightened heart can see with. We will feel compassion even in stressful moments of lost communication. This kindness and compassion will assist us to find common grounds and bridge our differences.

Once a friend told me how babies and animals respond to constant kind and calm treatment and how rigid or agitated treatment as a response to their unduly behavior only produce more of that unwanted behavior. If we apply this to relationships, it seems the tolerance and clam that is the byproduct of a peaceful sole can largely aid in bringing peace and harmony even to a difficult relationship.

Universal love is one and it is like a river that circulates the universe and its inhabitants that moves from our souls to other souls and back to us.

When we love truly and our love is for the true self of those we love, not for the outer ego or its material accomplishments or possessions including looks, social class, education and alike. When we love someone for their inner values, for their kindness and warmth for their honesty and sweetness, for those traits that never weather or disappear then we connect at the core. One does not envy those whom he loves or compete with them. Love is giving and finds its utmost joy in seeing those whom we love achieve their dreams and happiness in life.

Are we able to be selfless in love? Of course we can. We love our children in a selfless way. What is more we can love strangers in a selfless way. We know that through the instinctive courage stories of people saving people from death though they may lose their lives in the process. We are able of amazing compassion. We root for total strangers in distant lands who we have no connection with in their misery and hard times. We shed tears for even unreal characters in stories and movies. Humans are far loving and more compassionate than they know.

If we can do this to total strangers or even unreal made up characters how is it that we fail with those who are closest to us sometimes?!

The answer is simple. We fall into vicious circles of constant hurts. The only way to escape them is through forgiving and working through our true compassionate selves which we know we possess.

In the end, love is the only feeling that we have more of it when we give more.