Romantic love as a construct of the ego
Love is love. The essence of love is the same and one. The difference between this love and that love is a creation of the ego. Romantic love is an ego construct with projections of the self. Therefore, it is the least possibly lasting love. In truth, it is by definition a none lasting construct since all ego creations are form creations and form creations are transit by nature, changeable by nature and cannot be lasting.
Before going farther, let me explain that when we hear about lasting relationships that are romantic in nature we overlook one of two possibilities; one is that the relationship has a strong spiritual or soul component that supports as a strong foundation a romantic thin construct, the second is that the it is something that exists in the imagination as in art form.
If we recall that ego constructs are pure illusions, a projection not a reality, we will understand that in romantic love we do not see the other person at all, we see the projection. If one is not in love with the humanity of the other person, not in love with the soul within, then the outer changeable facade will disappointing the lover and make her and the beloved suffer through their own disappointments and illusions.
Since people are not perfect and therefore hard to worship as "the one" in a "forever bless dreamy concept", the way romantic love supposed to make us feel, the ego creates its own construct around a person that is conceived to provide the ego with fuel to strengthen its existence. Therefor even in the "choice" or "selection" of that person, the ego will select on a form based criteria, transit and none consistent by nature.
Of course we are all worthy of love and we are all one in truth and therefore no one is less or more worthy of our love than the other, yet the ego selects based on its own perception of itself (our false self) and perception of reality and how it (the ego/false self) relates to that reality which is also an illusion construct to the ego.
Think of the ego as a holographic goggles that we wear almost all the time and through which we see the world and its inhabitants including our romantic partners. It is not the real world but the world according to those goggles. If we had one glimpse of the real world, the illusion weakens and with time it dissolves. This dissolution of the ego which we can achieve through ignoring the form an the ego construct and seeing directly through the soul (mediation, stillness) a process that threatens the illusion and with that our self image or false self/ego and with it pain can come as a defensive mechanism of the ego to maintain its existence and grip on us.
The ego is what we think we are, our image in the mirror such as our education, family ties, position in society, age, and so on. It is what we call self image or worth. In reality our true self image is not measured by any of the above. Our true self worth is not more or less than anyone else, we are all and one and we are as valuable as the light. Our happiness though is very much connected to how we perceive reality, the others and ourselves. It is also in our ability to let go, block judgement, and accept what it is.
Before going farther, let me explain that when we hear about lasting relationships that are romantic in nature we overlook one of two possibilities; one is that the relationship has a strong spiritual or soul component that supports as a strong foundation a romantic thin construct, the second is that the it is something that exists in the imagination as in art form.
If we recall that ego constructs are pure illusions, a projection not a reality, we will understand that in romantic love we do not see the other person at all, we see the projection. If one is not in love with the humanity of the other person, not in love with the soul within, then the outer changeable facade will disappointing the lover and make her and the beloved suffer through their own disappointments and illusions.
Since people are not perfect and therefore hard to worship as "the one" in a "forever bless dreamy concept", the way romantic love supposed to make us feel, the ego creates its own construct around a person that is conceived to provide the ego with fuel to strengthen its existence. Therefor even in the "choice" or "selection" of that person, the ego will select on a form based criteria, transit and none consistent by nature.
Of course we are all worthy of love and we are all one in truth and therefore no one is less or more worthy of our love than the other, yet the ego selects based on its own perception of itself (our false self) and perception of reality and how it (the ego/false self) relates to that reality which is also an illusion construct to the ego.
Think of the ego as a holographic goggles that we wear almost all the time and through which we see the world and its inhabitants including our romantic partners. It is not the real world but the world according to those goggles. If we had one glimpse of the real world, the illusion weakens and with time it dissolves. This dissolution of the ego which we can achieve through ignoring the form an the ego construct and seeing directly through the soul (mediation, stillness) a process that threatens the illusion and with that our self image or false self/ego and with it pain can come as a defensive mechanism of the ego to maintain its existence and grip on us.
The ego is what we think we are, our image in the mirror such as our education, family ties, position in society, age, and so on. It is what we call self image or worth. In reality our true self image is not measured by any of the above. Our true self worth is not more or less than anyone else, we are all and one and we are as valuable as the light. Our happiness though is very much connected to how we perceive reality, the others and ourselves. It is also in our ability to let go, block judgement, and accept what it is.
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