The mind construct and happiness

Here is the simplest truth of all relationships and it is the most overlooked. No one is really out there; everyone is just a prop in our life story. There is no way we can know a person truly the way we relate to the world, ourselves and them right now, so we construct people and we relate to them through our own construct or illusion.

If people acted in a way inconsistent with our construct they are threatening our false self and we need either to control them or to discard them.  Since people are not the construct we made them to be in our minds, they do often deviate from the artificial construct and act themselves so we often have struggles, conflict and we ‘fail in our relationships. We hear ourselves saying things like “I truly did not know who she was” or “he lied to me, he is not the man I knew” while these statements seem quite familiar to us and reasonable, the truth we never accept people as they are, we never actually look at them as humans who are changeable, developing, growing and evolving, to us those are fixed props we dress to our liking so they fit the roles we decided they must fulfill in our lives. Through this dilemma, and utter illusion we deal with the world and its inhabitants and we wonder why we never find happiness and why the world keeps disappointing us constantly.

To escape this jail, to free ourselves so we can be happy, we need to stop labeling and qualifying people. All labels and qualifiers are illusions made by the mind to simplify processing and dealing with the world. The complex human nature is never accepted by us because it is influx, changeable, uncertain and therefore scary to deal with. The very nature of reality is a constant river of change. If we are to be happy we have to adapt to the natural rhythm of life, the only real rhythm which is change.  Nothing is stable and the only reason any worldly associations can be maintained is either by achieving a parallel compatible change with them or through complete surrender and acceptance which is much easier.

One more conclusion stems from the fact we perceive the world as a construct made up of our minds. This conclusion is that if our perception of the world is simply our own creation, does not that make all people and situations changeable to us? While this may sound quite none ideal or far from being romantic, it is quit freeing. It makes no one and nothing essential to our happiness.

The way to happiness is in letting go, in total surrender to what is and not to what we want things to be. Happiness is in being aligned to the reality of the world without the mind filtering it into whatever the mind wanting it to be and in the process struggling, and conflict arise as we attempt to control that is which cannot be controlled, the will and existence of the other.

Accepting what is and enjoy the flow of reality can produce great experiences. Those are experiences of spiritual growth, of joy, of love and connection. When it is time to part, we part and though the connection in the form maybe severed, the connection in the soul would remain as freedom is the only way to ensure the continuity of any connection.

Compassion and love is the way of the whole. Anger, hurt and separation is the way of the form, of the ego and it governs the world we call reality, which we know it is a construct, an illusion. If we let go of the illusion, the ego weakens and sometimes even dissolves, allowing us to experience true soul and higher-self connections.  These are not the ego plagued romantic love connections, these are lasting, strong authentic and truthful connections that transcend form and raise us to where we learn important lessons that are hard to achieve on our own.